Christ tells us in the Gospel of Matthew: “Stop judging, that you may not be judged.” But does that mean we should keep quiet when someone is committing a sin?
Recently on Heart to Heart with Mother Miriam, Mother Miriam of the Lamb of God tackled this very question. A listener called whose sister recently divorced and immediately moved in with a new boyfriend. The caller tried to tell her sister that her actions are wrong, but the sister told the caller she was just being judgmental. What should she do?
Mother Miriam advised, “We are required to judge sin. We don’t judge the heart, we can’t fully know the state of anyone’s heart. We can’t know the motive, but we know the sin. If someone commits murder, we don’t know what prompted them, necessarily. Whether they were mentally ill, whether it was drugs, who knows. But we judge that it was murder. We must judge the sin.
Jesus said that if you even look on a woman with lust for her you’ve committed adultery in your heart. If you’re living with a man who is not your husband – and he’s not, because you’re still married – you are living in mortal sin. And this man you claim to love? You are bringing him to hell with you.”
Mother Miriam encouraged the caller by saying, “Don’t worry about what she thinks of you, you must love her enough to say, ‘I can’t judge you because I’m not God. I can’t see your heart. But I must judge the circumstances, and you are living in adultery and that is a matter of grave sin.’
If she wants this relationship more than she wants heaven, and she wants to put that on a person who she is claiming to care for, then she has free will to do that. Just speak the truth to her.”
Listen to the full call below: