Doug Hinderer investigates the depths of Natural Family Planning (NFP) with Dr. Stephanie Kafie, a powerhouse in the NFP world, and the founder of Totally Yours Family Medicine. Dr. Stephanie has poured her heart into helping couples understand and embrace NFP, and her new book, Totally Yours: The Catholic Natural Family Planning Handbook, is a go-to for anyone interested in the why and how of NFP.
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What’s So Special About NFP? 🧑⚕️🤔
Dr. Stephanie shares why she wrote this book: because, honestly, so many people (even doctors!) are unsure about who actually uses NFP. She’s collected a trove of real-life stories from couples who’ve found NFP transformative. It’s more than just avoiding or achieving pregnancy; it’s a way to connect spiritually, emotionally, and physically in marriage. 💖
She mentions the health perks of going natural vs. artificial contraception, like avoiding the typical side effects: think irregular bleeding, depression, and hormonal disruptions. NFP doesn’t just cover up symptoms; it digs into the root causes of issues like infertility, making it a win for physical health, too! 🌱🩺
The New World of “Femtech”
Gone are the days of old-school thermometers! With advances in “femtech” (a.k.a. technology for women’s health), NFP has gone high-tech. Dr. Stephanie explains how devices like the Clearblue fertility monitor make tracking fertility super objective. This isn’t just guesswork; it’s about being in sync with your body through data-driven insights.
Plus, having a certified instructor: especially in methods like Marquette is a game-changer. An instructor can guide couples through different “seasons” of fertility, like postpartum and perimenopause, making NFP feel way less intimidating. 🌷
Why NFP Builds Stronger Marriages 💪
Doug and Dr. Stephanie get real about how NFP nurtures a deeper connection. Here’s what they discuss:
Better Communication: Couples using NFP often have to talk (yes, really talk!) about their relationship goals, family planning, and openness to new life.
Increased Respect: Instead of the woman “dealing with it” alone through contraceptives, NFP involves both partners, creating shared responsibility and respect.
More Emotional & Spiritual Intimacy: Unlike contraception, which can make intimacy feel transactional, NFP invites couples to view each other as whole persons, fertility included.
And if you’re wondering if there’s proof in the pudding: Dr. Stephanie mentions research showing that NFP-practicing couples have lower divorce rates and report feeling more emotionally connected and spiritually enriched.
Real Talk: It’s Work, but It’s Beautiful Work 👶
NFP isn’t easy. Dr. Stephanie is quick to say it won’t fix everything; it’s not going to cure a tough marriage overnight. For those willing to put in the prayerful discernment, it can lead to a profound union. Instead of avoiding hard conversations, NFP encourages the “are we ready for new life?” chat: a humbling way to make God part of your marriage decisions.
🎧 Takeaway: NFP is more than family planning; it’s about mutual respect, holistic health, and a spiritual approach to marriage that invites God in. So, maybe NFP isn’t just about fertility: it’s a whole new way to live out God’s plan for marriage.
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