We get it: this is a super emotional topic for so many of us. You’re staring at those sweet grandbaby cheeks (or your adorable nieces and nephews!) and thinking, “I just want to make sure they’re with Jesus forever!” But… is secretly baptizing them the right move? 🤔 Msgr. Brian Bransfield is here to give his thoughts.

When Your Heart Aches for Their Souls 💔

You’re not alone in this struggle. Many of us have family or friends who, for whatever reason, aren’t baptizing their kids. It can feel like watching someone walk a tightrope without a net. Do you step in? Or do you trust God’s timing? 🕊️

Why Baptism is a Big Deal 🌊✨

Let’s pause and remember why baptism matters so much:

It’s asacrament, instituted by Christ. It literally washes away original sin and makes us part of God’s family.

Jesus said it Himself: “Unless one is born of water and Spirit, they cannot enter the Kingdom of God” (John 3:5). That’s heavy stuff.

Baptismleaves an eternal mark on the soul. Even if someone drifts away from the faith, it’s always there, calling them back to Christ. 📞❤️

The Tricky Question of Secret Baptism 🤫

So, can you do it? Technically, yes. Here’s the truth:

Anyone can baptize in an emergency (think life or death), and it’s valid as long as you say the Trinitarian formula: “I baptize you in the name of the Father, the Son, and the Holy Spirit.”

BUT… this isn’t just about validity: it’s aboutfamily relationships, trust, and the child’s spiritual future.

Secretly baptizing might feel like a loving act (and in your heart, it is), but it can create serious conflicts. Plus, baptism isn’t just a one-and-done deal: it’s the start of a whole journey in the faith. Who’s going to nurture that child’s faith life if their parents aren’t on board? 🤷‍♀️

What Should You Do Instead? 🙏💬

1️⃣ Pray, Pray, Pray 🙏

Don’t underestimate the power of prayer. God hears the cries of your heart, especially when it comes to bringing souls to Him.

2️⃣ Have Open, Loving Conversations 🗣️❤️

Talk to the parents with kindness and respect. Share why baptism matters to you and gently encourage them to consider it.

3️⃣ Be a Faith Witness 🌟

Actions speak louder than words. Live your faith in a way that inspires them. Maybe your joy and peace will plant the seeds for them to seek baptism themselves!

If You’ve Already Secretly Baptized… 👀

Your heart was in the right place. But now, you’ve got a special responsibility.

Be intentional about guiding that child in the faith.

Encourage church involvement, share resources, and lovingly mentor them as they grow.

A Real-Life Story to Inspire You 📖

Anne called into Drew’s show to share her experience. Years ago, she secretly baptized her niece. Fast forward a few years, and that same niece discovered her baptism and felt overwhelmed with gratitude. 🙌 Anne now feels called to guide her niece spiritually, and it’s become a beautiful journey of faith for both of them.

Final Takeaway 🌟

Baptism is the beginning of something beautiful and eternal. It’s not just a moment; it’s an invitation into a lifelong relationship with Jesus. Whether you’re praying for your family members or courageously sharing your faith, know this: you’re planting seeds that God can grow in His perfect timing. 🌱

We’re all in this together: supporting each other, loving our families, and trusting God’s plan. Let’s keep praying and guiding with open arms and hearts full of hope. 🤗💒

What are your thoughts on this? Have you faced this dilemma before? Share your story: we’d love to hear it! ❤️

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