Author: Thomas Engesser

Emotional affairs & avoiding divorce

Marriage Unhindered, Podcasts
Doug goes to the Mailbag. Is it considered an emotional affair if you haven’t had contact with the person and it is more of a fantasy? Should you tell your spouse about it? Should you marry someone who does not want to have children? Doug gives advice on these questions and more. PLUS: The Friday […]https://traffic.omny.fm/d/clips/134e18ca-7af8-403f-a7eb-ad7f01861f48/032085b4-f742-4d50-a40b-b0f1010b35e9/76fb689b-fbb3-4b81-9846-b32501802a51/audio.mp3Podcast: Play ... Read more

Show them you love them

Marriage Unhindered, Podcasts
Listener questions and comments: Norma – I have a 2-year-old grandson who kicks me a lot. What should I do to stop this? Time outs don’t work. (19:18) Michelle – I don’t agree with them on authoritative parents. My dad was a battalion fire chief (25:40) Thomas – In 1 Timothy it elaborates that parents […]https://traffic.omny.fm/d/clips/134e18ca-7af8-403f-a7eb-ad7f01861f48/032085b4-f742-4d50-a40b-b0f1010b35e9/fc0ad7b9-1116-4783-9735-b32401819c93/audio.mp3Podcast: Play ... Read more

Is my husband a narcissist?

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Doug goes to the mail bag to answer questions regarding a clearly narcissistic husband. Can he demand intimacy? Also, Doug addresses how to navigate intimacy for older couples. Listener questions and comments: Mary – I was in a narcissistic marriage and to me this email gives me the impression that there is abuse and it […]https://traffic.omny.fm/d/clips/134e18ca-7af8-403f-a7eb-ad7f01861f48/032085b4-f742-4d50-a40b-b0f1010b35e9/85e8e9ee-0255-49d4-a511-b3230181d3f8/audio.mp3Podcast: Play ... Read more

Attachment Wounds

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Jonathan Marcotte joins Doug discussing the impact of childhood attachment wounds in a marriage. Listener questions and comments: John – I have an anxiety disorder that upsets my wife and it causes tension in our marriage. What advice do you have that can help us? (24:09) Maria – Sometimes my husband makes comments that can […]https://traffic.omny.fm/d/clips/134e18ca-7af8-403f-a7eb-ad7f01861f48/032085b4-f742-4d50-a40b-b0f1010b35e9/8365ffb9-edb4-4351-8b7d-b3220181b11a/audio.mp3Podcast: Play ... Read more

Meeting Hurt with Maturity

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Conflict in Marriage is unavoidable. So how should you respond? Doug shares ten key behaviors that emotionally mature spouses demonstrate when they’ve been hurt. Listener questions and comments: Tina – How can I rebuild my relationship with my husband after a conflict that’s left him emotionally unavailable? (8:22) Toni – People often say homemakers aren’t […]https://traffic.omny.fm/d/clips/134e18ca-7af8-403f-a7eb-ad7f01861f48/032085b4-f742-4d50-a40b-b0f1010b35e9/83dd0661-06c0-4190-be1d-b3210187084b/audio.mp3Podcast: Play ... Read more

Humor in Marriage

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Is teasing acceptable in marriage? How about playful sarcasm? Today, Doug unpacks a letter by Alice Von Hildebrand from her book By Love Refined. Doug shares how humor can be a great thing but can be hurtful if you cross the line and that the key for both spouses is to focus on the other’s […]https://traffic.omny.fm/d/clips/134e18ca-7af8-403f-a7eb-ad7f01861f48/032085b4-f742-4d50-a40b-b0f1010b35e9/a0fdab03-ca9c-490d-a1a3-b31e017d451c/audio.mp3Podcast: Play ... Read more

Discipline & Punishment

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Monica Hinderer joins Doug to dissect the differences between disciplining and punishing children. They share that when we punish children, the children often shut down, but when we discipline, we show them the adults we want them to become. Listener questions and comments: Mary – What should I do instead of counting to three or […]https://traffic.omny.fm/d/clips/134e18ca-7af8-403f-a7eb-ad7f01861f48/032085b4-f742-4d50-a40b-b0f1010b35e9/c96cc747-1104-43b9-86d1-b31d018312d3/audio.mp3Podcast: Play ... Read more

What he wishes you knew

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Doug calls on wives to pick one or two of his points to work on with their husbands. From offering silent support for your spouse to showing emotional and physical affection, husbands need to know their wives love them. Listener questions and comments: Elizabeth – My husband leaves me little notes when I am feeling […]https://traffic.omny.fm/d/clips/134e18ca-7af8-403f-a7eb-ad7f01861f48/032085b4-f742-4d50-a40b-b0f1010b35e9/e35ebace-0509-4d5c-b534-b31c01836a26/audio.mp3Podcast: Play ... Read more

What she wishes you knew

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Doug shares what wives wish their husbands understood. From realizing that romance doesn’t have to be expensive to learning that she often wants to be heard not fixed, Doug offers practical advice to help men become the husbands their wives truly need. Listener questions and comments: Rich: A conversation with his wife of 25 years […]https://traffic.omny.fm/d/clips/134e18ca-7af8-403f-a7eb-ad7f01861f48/032085b4-f742-4d50-a40b-b0f1010b35e9/da83b993-aa38-4851-8d64-b31b0188a5ae/audio.mp3Podcast: Play ... Read more

Building Trust

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Can a marriage survive without trust? Can you have trust in one area of marriage and not the other? Today, Doug shares tips for building trust in your marriage. He unpacks the benefits of trust and explores the difference between emotional, intimate, financial and parental trust. Listener questions and comments: Adrianna – My adult daughter […]https://traffic.omny.fm/d/clips/134e18ca-7af8-403f-a7eb-ad7f01861f48/032085b4-f742-4d50-a40b-b0f1010b35e9/3f30b3d6-28e5-479f-a583-b31a018068df/audio.mp3Podcast: Play ... Read more

Does a pornography addiction invalidate a marriage?

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How should you relate to a father who abused you emotionally and physically as a child? Does a pornography addiction invalidate a marriage? Doug opens up the mailbag and shares advice on these questions and more. Plus: The Friday rant! Listener questions and comments: Cindy – I’ve been dating a man for three months and […]https://traffic.omny.fm/d/clips/134e18ca-7af8-403f-a7eb-ad7f01861f48/032085b4-f742-4d50-a40b-b0f1010b35e9/2085b098-ac18-4d5d-aaba-b31701827652/audio.mp3Podcast: Play ... Read more

Discipline & Happiness

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Monica Hinderer joins Doug to continue their conversation on raising happy children. Listener questions and comments: Lori – When my mother disciplined my brothers, instead of getting mad she would cry. It was the worst punishment ever. (17:40) Donna – I have a son who’s older, and making a career choice. I was worried about […]https://traffic.omny.fm/d/clips/134e18ca-7af8-403f-a7eb-ad7f01861f48/032085b4-f742-4d50-a40b-b0f1010b35e9/16387ea2-0b91-4133-8750-b316017e5116/audio.mp3Podcast: Play ... Read more