Meeting Hurt with Maturity

Conflict in Marriage is unavoidable. So how should you respond? Doug shares ten key behaviors that emotionally mature spouses demonstrate when they’ve been hurt.

Listener questions and comments:

  • Tina – How can I rebuild my relationship with my husband after a conflict that’s left him emotionally unavailable? (8:22)
  • Toni – People often say homemakers aren’t “working”, but homemaking and raising children are some of the most important jobs a parent can do. (26:40)

Resources:

Person and Identity

https://personandidentity.com/

Marriage Unhindered

https://www.marriageunhindered.com/

Rekindled Hearts Marriage Bundle

https://relevantradio.store/collections/books/products/marriage-bundle

Happy Marriage for Life

https://www.happymarriageforlife.com/

Emotionally focused therapy:

https://iceeft.com/

Ten things emotionally mature spouses do when they get hurt:

  1. Pause before reacting
  2. They name what they’re feeling
  3. They don’t make it about revenge or proof
  4. You consider the other perspective without dismissing it
  5. They take accountability in the situation
  6. Choose distance over drama
  7. Allow themselves to grieve
  8. They don’t let one behavior define the worth of the marriage
  9. Don’t overshare just to unload
  10. Focus on growth over control.