The Best Advice for Married Couples

Jake Moore, producer of The Drew Mariani ShowTM, and his fiancée, Catherine, are getting married today. Father Richard Simon, host of Father Simon SaysTM, is officiating the ceremony, and joined Drew’s team on air this week to share his top piece of advice for the newlyweds. It’s something that all engaged and married couples should remember.

Pray with one another every day. “You really bear your soul when you pray, and the most intimate thing you can do with another human being is to pray with them. I think of my parents and they closed the door to the bedroom when they were in their 70s but if it was open a crack, you could see them—and it wasn’t elaborate, it was just simple, a few prayers—and they would kneel by the side of the bed and hold hands and pray for one another and their needs and the kids and the grandkids. If you learn to pray with each other and you make that a regular thing, and in this wondrous age it can be done … wherever you are on the face of the globe,” said Fr. Simon.

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He told Jake that he and Cathy should make it a top priority in their marriage, “Every day, to pray together and to spend some time talking to each other.” Not talking about the grocery list, Fr. Simon said, but really talking with one another.

Drew Mariani agreed wholeheartedly. “You share your life together but you really bear your soul together when you pray because you’re inviting God into that. My wife and I try to pray every single day together and it really draws us closer. I remember when we first got married, we didn’t do it so much and a friend of hers who wasn’t super Catholic or into her faith or anything, got married to a guy who was Christian and they began to pray together. And their relationship transformed because it was a little rocky when they first got married and I thought, wow that’s something else. But when you pray together you build that bond that when you have difficult times with the kids, with finances, with whatever it may be, it just gives you a sense of support and helps you navigate those turbulent waters,” he said.

If you haven’t begun to pray with your spouse, whether you’ve been married 1 month or 50 years, it’s never too late to start. It might be a bit awkward at first, but you’ll learn how to pray together and will find what sort of prayer works best for your marriage. Just as you share everything else in life with your spouse, it is important to share your soul and your prayer.

Find a time that works best for you. Drew recommends the morning because if you try to pray at the end of the day, you might have a difficult time staying awake. Don’t be afraid to jump into a prayer life with your spouse that will develop and strengthen, just as your love has through the years.

Congratulations, Jake and Cathy! May God abundantly bless your marriage!

Lindsey is a wife, mother, and contributing author at Relevant Radio. She holds a degree in Journalism and Advertising from the University of Wisconsin-Milwaukee. Lindsey enjoys writing, baking, and liturgical living with her young family.