My Children Aren’t Catholic – How Can I Have Masses Offered for My Soul?

November is a month in which we pray for the souls in Purgatory. And while this is a month when we pray in a special way for our loved ones who have died, praying for the dead is an important aspect of our faith life that we should remember year-round.

As we pray for the dead, some may be thinking of their own death, and the hope that their loved ones will pray and offer Masses for them after they have passed. But those whose family has fallen away from the Church, or those who are converts and have no family members who are Catholic may wonder how they can have Masses said for them if they can’t rely on their family to arrange that.

This was the issue that Fr. Richard Simon recently tackled on Father Simon Says™ when a listener named Mary called and said, “Unfortunately, none of my children are in the Church. And I’m thinking after I die they’ll never have Masses said. How can I arrange for that before I die?”

“If you’ve got a good lawyer make it a codicil in your will,” Fr. Simon suggested. “Get a lawyer and say, ‘on this condition they inherit, that they have regular Masses said for the repose of my soul.’ Or there are religious orders that will do that, monasteries and that sort of thing. That’s what I would do.”

When it comes to making end of life arrangements, it is important to not forget the importance of your eternal soul.  Father Simon pointed out to Mary that she can do her best to show her children how important her faith is to her while she is still alive, but that there are also ways to emphasize that after her death. He said, “It might be a good thing to put it in your will that they inherit on the condition that they have Masses said for you. It might make them think how important this was to you.”

“I will be praying for you Mary,” he assured her. “And by the way, pray for your priests! They also don’t have children who will pray for them, so offer Masses for the priests who have blessed you.”

Listen to the conversation below:

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Stephanie Foley serves as a Digital Media Producer at Relevant Radio®. She is a graduate of Franciscan University of Steubenville, where she studied journalism, and she has worked in Catholic radio for 12 years. Stephanie is a wife, a mother of three boys, and in her free time she enjoys reading, running, and really good coffee. You can find more of Stephanie’s writing at and on the free Relevant Radio mobile app.