“How Do I Talk to My Kids About the Birds and the Bees?” (Special Podcast Highlight)

Let’s dive into a conversation that many Catholic parents ponder over: “When and how do I have THE talk with my kids?”  Patrick Madrid received a question from a concerned mom, Sandra, who was wrestling with this very question. Sandra and her husband have two boys, aged 9 and 11, and they’re at a crossroads about who should lead this delicate discussion and when.


Patrick’s advice? Go for it, but with a strategy! 


Father Knows Best? Yes, says Patrick. He leans towards the idea that dads should initially take the helm, when it comes to their sons. The magic age? Eleven seems to be the sweet spot, considering the societal influences kids are exposed to today. Why dads? It’s about creating a comfortable space for questions and understanding, minus any awkwardness.


Moms, You’re Up for Daughters: Patrick shared how, in his own family with 11 kids, he chatted with his sons, while his wife chatted with their daughters.


The Walk-and-Talk Method: Ever considered a heart-to-heart in a cemetery? Sounds gothic, but Patrick found this serene setting perfect for “the talk.” Why? No distractions, just peace, making it easier to chat about becoming a man, the changes to expect, and the birds and the bees, all wrapped up in a message of love, growth, and the beauty of life’s cycles.


Keep It Light, Keep It Right: The discussion doesn’t have to be a somber affair. Infusing humor and keeping a light-hearted tone can help ease any tension. Remember, it’s about opening a dialogue that continues as your child grows, ensuring they know they can always come to you with questions or concerns.


School Talks & Peer Chatter: Patrick emphasizes the importance of parents taking the lead before schools or friends do. Misinformation is rampant, and a guided, loving conversation from a parent can set the right foundation for understanding sexuality in the context of love, marriage, and procreation.


TL;DR: Patrick champions a thoughtful approach to discussing sexuality with children, aiming for an atmosphere of openness and trust. The goal? Equip kids with knowledge, grounded in faith and family values, ready to navigate the world informed, confident, and connected to their parents. 


Your Turn! When did you have “the talk” with your kids, or how do you plan to approach it?

Patrick Madrid is an acclaimed public speaker and has authored or edited 26 books, which have sold over a million copies worldwide, including foreign-language editions. He hosts The Patrick Madrid Show daily on Relevant Radio.