Navigating Conflict in Marriage (The Inner Life with Patrick Conley)

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Patrick Conley chats with Fr. Dave Heney, as they offer golden nuggets of advice for all couples sailing in the sea of matrimony.

Become an Expert on Your Spouse: Fr. Dave emphasizes the importance of understanding your partner’s triggers. By becoming highly attuned to what annoys or irritates your spouse, you can anticipate potential conflicts before they even arise.

🚫 Hold That Tongue When Angry: One of the key takeaways is the absolute no-no of discussing heated issues while angry. Fr. Dave strongly advises against trying to resolve conflicts in the heat of the moment, as this often leads to regrettable words.

🕒 Time Out Before Talk: Instead of escalating the situation, take a pause. Fr. Dave suggests tabling the discussion until both spouses have cooled down, which can sometimes mean revisiting the topic after some time has passed, like after dinner.

👂 Listen Like Your Love Depends on It: A big no-no in conversations? Interrupting! Fr. Dave calls for discipline in communication, stressing the power of listening fully before responding, signaling deep respect and validation for your spouse’s feelings.

Dig Deeper with “Why”: Beyond just understanding what your spouse says, Fr. Dave recommends exploring why they feel a certain way. This approach fosters a deeper emotional connection and can even turn a disagreement into a moment of closeness.

🔇 Silence Isn’t Golden: Contrary to some beliefs, giving the silent treatment doesn’t solve anything but rather compounds the hurt. Open, respectful dialogue is portrayed as a conduit of love, much like how God’s word is described as a revelation of His love for us.

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