Criticism and people pleasing

Monica Hinderer joins Doug to continue their discussion on being raised in a highly critical home. In this episode, they unpack how overly critical parents can lead children to become people pleasers. They share how people pleasers tend to suppress their own emotions and have lower self-esteem and offer solutions to help those who struggle with people pleasing.

Listener questions and comments:

  • Andrew – My friend is being raised in a household where they don’t really practice their faith, and now he’s being influenced by the LGBTQ lifestyle. How can I help my friend?
  • Jenna – I really struggle with people pleasing as an adult. I’m 28, and I don’t really know who I am as a person.
  • Charlie – My son became a people pleaser because he wanted to be accepted.
  • Sally – How do I know when to be firm so I don’t create a people pleasing child.
  • Louise – People pleasing vs. pleasing God.

Resources:

Catholic Therapists

https://www.catholictherapists.com/

Catholic Psychotherapy

https://catholicpsychotherapy.org/

Emotionally Focused Therapy

https://iceeft.com/

The Disease To Please: Curing the People-Pleasing Syndrome

https://www.amazon.com/Disease-Please-Curing-People-Pleasing-Syndrome/dp/0071385649