Doug continues his discussion on childhood attachment wounds and how they can negatively impact your marriage. Today, he looks at anxious and disorganized attachment strategies.
Listener questions and comments:
- John – My wife doesn’t like talking about difficult topics and she just wants me to listen but I want to fix. its effecting our communication. (24:20)
- Angel – My fiancé was an orphan raised by his uncle and was very spoiled. He has a very entitled attitude. What should I do? (26:31)
Resources:
Impact of Attachment Styles (Part 1)
https://relevantradio.com/2026/06/impact-of-attachment-styles/
Emotionally Focused Therapy
Signs of an anxious attachment style
- Tendency to be very clingy
- Highly sensitive to criticism
- Need for approval from others
- Tendency to be very jealous
- Hard time being alone
- Tendency for having low self esteem
- Feel unworthy of love
- Intense fear of rejection
Signs of a disorganized attachment style
- Fear of rejection
- Difficulty regulating emotions
- Contradictory behavior
- High level of anxiety
- Substance abuse and self-harm
- Unpredictable and confusing behavior in relationships
- Perceive spouses to be unpredictable
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